Feb 2014
Josie Bungert

I have a Valentine, and yet don’t care about this holiday

Oh, Valentine’s Day. The day that those in love are supposed to rejoice and those not in relationships are supposed to be depressed and wallow in self-pity. Since I would fall into that first category, you would probably expect me to be over the moon, super pumped for a lovey-dovey gushy day on Friday. Well, I am excited, I won’t lie. But not because it’s Valentine’s Day.

Today marks four and a half years for my boyfriend and me, and I’ll see him for the first time in a month on Thursday. When we started discussing Valentine’s Day for this year, we both got busy, and both kinda forgot about it, and therefore ended up not actually planning anything. For us, him coming into town is the exciting thing this weekend; for everyone else, it’s Valentine’s Day. This is shown in the fact that between yesterday and today I have spent two hours looking for any sort of restaurant to get a reservation at on Friday. At first, we were looking for a specific type of restaurant to attempt to make Valentine’s Day special, but when I found they all had reservations, I resorted to whatever, wherever, whenever on Friday night. As of a half hour ago, I’m pretty sure I made a reservation somewhere, in a grand scramble, but am not positive. If we didn’t get anything at this point, I know we won’t. So, our plan for Friday is staying in, ordering Pickleman’s, and watching our go to show, How I Met Your Mother.

Here's a really cheesy PicStitch of me and the boyfriend on our last four anniversaries. Anniversary = way more important to us than an arbitrary holiday.

Here’s a really cheesy PicStitch of me and the boyfriend on our last four anniversaries. Anniversary = way more important to us than an arbitrary holiday.

The fact of the matter is, Valentine’s Day is just another day, even when you’re in a relationship. In fact, I would argue that it is even more of just a day when you’re in a long-term relationship. Valentine’s Day seems over celebrated by those that are in fresh, new, relationships, or those who asked someone out for the first time inconveniently close to Valentine’s Day. As romantic of a day that it is built up to be, Valentine’s Day is really just a day on the calendar.

When he and I are together, we go out to dinner, we go out to movies, and go out for dessert. Valentine’s Day doesn’t change that, doesn’t make these activities more or less important. Valentine’s Day actually just makes all of that more complicated. Those out there that celebrate their relationships and love seriously on Valentine’s Day make me just having a weekend with my boyfriend that much more complicated. Don’t get me wrong, I love love, love spending time with my boyfriend, and am totally cool going out on Valentine’s Day. But for all you single people out there, just know: having a significant other doesn’t make Valentine’s Day automatically magical. If you’re feeling lonely on Friday, or happen to be out seeing people in love being all lovey dovey, keep this in mind. The magic isn’t in the holiday – it’s in the value of the relationship.